The Prodigal Son and The Elder Brother:
A Different Perspective
(Luke 15:11-32)
(Luke 15:11-32)
I love the story of the prodigal son, it is a story of redemption and restoration. Most people clearly identify with the prodigal son; the brokeness, the shame,etc. and like watching the victory winning shot of the basketball game they cheer (though they have heard the sermon a million times almost) as the wayward son finds his way home, back into his father's arms and to a feast with the fatted calf. The elder brother coming in from the field hears the celebration and refuses to participate; his wayward brother is getting all this attention and he is disgusted and I cannot say that I blame him. I have seen so many well meaning believers demonize the elder brother. He is the son that faithfully served his father and did not stray as his younger brother remember? I have heard him called a hypocrite, self-righteous, having a religious spirit and so on. I think people who criticize this character fail to see the heart of his reaction and I want to address this here and now.
Before I discuss the elder brother, I want to address another position of this story, the father's position. I am not yet a parent, but I have plenty of friends who are and they seem to identify more with the father's reaction to his son returning home more than any other position in the story. If they have a wayward child of their own, they really identify with this father's relief to have his child home safely and long for that reality in their own life. I have one friend in particular who has a child struggling with a drug problem. She and her husband try to extend extra grace to this wayward child in hopes he will come home. His other siblings get annoyed with her and her husband stating they don't get that type of grace when they mess up and how unfair it is. She explained to me that this child (who was raised in a Yah-fearing home) is in a dangerous place in his walk with Yah and the extra grace is to get him to repent, not because they are playing favorites and do not appreciate their other children who have not strayed from their faith. Nobody knows the pain a parent endures when they have a child out there living sinfully and they have no idea if they are dead or alive and the relief they feel when they come back home alive. For those who have expereinced this, the father's celebration for his son is completely understandable though others may not understand. I can tell you if this were my baby coming home, I would celebrate too!
For those who give the elder brother such a hard time I ask you to put down your pitchforks and torches for a minute and just look at him as a son who also needed his father's love and celebration. Are there any out there who have had to be the subject of watching another sibling being the recipient of your parents love and attention and they are wayward, in sin and you have not pursued such endeavors and you seem to go unoticed? It can be quite irritating, no? I will take it a step further, how about those of you who have been faithfully serving the Most High for years and I am not talking about religious activity including regular church attendance. I speak of you loving Yah with all your heart and giving it all you got and your "brother" or "sister" goes on a full tilt boogie with sin and when they come to their senses and return to Yah, he pours out all this love and blessing on them. I mean they get the full red carpet treatment and you have to stand in the shadows while they get all the attention after the stunts they pulled. Maybe I am alone in my observation, but I have experienced this in my own life. To the best of my ability I have tried to serve the Most High most of my life (he saved me when I was 12) and I have seen others in the kingdom go full throttle in their rebellion, then they repent, and Yah gives them a new job, a new house, new car, an awesome spouse
Let me make it very clear that I am not trying present this picture that I am perfect that I do not fall short as we all do, what I am saying is that I understand it can be frustrating to strive to live right and those around you can live say alot more relaxed and get celebrated by Yah, after a while you may be tempted to say "why bother?", not that you seek to sin against Yah but the question if the effort makes a difference (It does, we just don't see it at the moment). Remember that when Y'shua spoke of the parable of the lost sheep, he stated that there was more rejoicing in heaven over one sinner who repents than 99 who have no need of repentance so that means that people like the Elder brother can be in a position of right standing with the father and not have to be labled as having a religious spirit as many do tend to do. I do not think the elder brother would have been happy if news came his brother had perished in his rebellion, (at least I hope not!) I think he was upset because it appeared that his younger brother was getting rewarded for going astray and he could not understand what the celebration was really about at the moment; his hurt and anger would not let him.
It is good that the prodigal came home, it is good his father welcomed him with open arms and celebrated him, he had a chance to make a new start as anyone who has made the wrong choices desprately needs. I am sure any one of us who lost everything in walking away from our heavenly father can appreciate the grace the prodigal received and welcomed it for themselves. I know I would. However, I do want to mention that though he felt ignored, the Elder brother was actually in a better position than his brother. Even though the prodigal son came home and was restored, he had squandered his inheritance, the elder brother had not, the father said to him "My son," the father said, "you are always with me, and everything I have is yours." (vs 31)That is the part of the story we forget about, that sin still has a consequence though we are forgiven. There are many of our brothers and sisters in the Kingdom of Yah that have been restored, but though they have yet to see it this side of heaven that they squandered a portion of their inheritance, (some of those men and women may be us) if not all of it and when they see what they squandered , there will be regret, but praise Yah their eternal life with Yah did not perish. We don't discuss the story like this because we don't like to think about the fact that there is accountability for what we choose. Sure we can squander our inheritance here and still make it to heaven, but do we really want to weep for the loss we will face? I do not want to think about it myself, trust me.
I think the elder brother was like many of us, he wanted his father's approval and to be celebrated, but the truth is he had it all along, he just failed to see it because he did not get the fireworks his younger brother did. Fireworks are nice, big, and spectacular, BUT they are temporary. the elder brother's inheritance and his relationship with his father is forever. For the many who feel uncelebrated by our heavenly father this side of heaven at times (notice I said feel, and feelings are not truth) I encourage you to remember what is written in Hebrews 9:10: For God is not unrighteous to forget your work and labour of love, which ye have shewed toward his name, in that ye have ministered to the saints, and do minister. He has not forgotten and in due season, he will celebrate you too.
Shalom







